Many people always ask if being friends with an ex is the right thing to do after a breakup. Although it isn't easy to get over the past feelings and emotions that arose from the past relationship, it can be done. This doesn't happen instantaneously though. There has been a lot between you and your ex, so the best thing is to be patient.
Be sure that whatever you do, don't look to the past when talking to your ex. Don't look to what went between you and your ex to gauge how to handle that person, this is because there may have been plenty of changes that you will have to cope with. Being friends may not be the easiest, you've experienced far more with this person than many, and you will have to look past that in order to secure a good friendship with your ex. A good thing to understand is being friends with an ex allows you to have someone who can really understand you when you are in need, but don't see their attention to you as nothing more than friendship. For more help on communicating with your ex, look into reading How to Talk to Your Ex.
Do not allow past feelings to be the reason you are wanting to be friends with your ex. Down the road in being friends with your ex, this will only cause further problems to your wanted friendship, and it could emotionally hurt you within the process.
Give yourself plenty of time to get over whatever may have happened between you and your ex. Don't hold your ex to something that they had possibly done, forgive them for what happened and get past old feelings.
Once you feel that you have gotten over your ex, then look to getting back their friendship. A great way to reestablish communication is to simply talk to them one day asking how things have been, whatever you choose, but be sure not to be annoying or awkward about it. Simply repeat this until your ex seems to be more into a conversation with you, and work from there.
From there you should be able to ensure a stable friendship with your ex, a have another friend there for you in case of need. Just be sure to know that your ex will most likely not want to go do something friendly right out of nowhere, be sure to give them time, and all will be well.
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Jeff Ryan creates self-help articles on the topic of relationship advice.
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