Moving on after a break up, loss or relationship change is sometimes very difficult. Unless the relationship is toxic and you are glad to get out, getting over someone you have loved can take time and be very draining. It seems that your life comes to a stand still. It stays on your mind constantly and every song or place reminds you of your past love.
Then there are the friends. You know mine, yours and ours that you have to deal with every time you go out. It almost drives you crazy. If you are to move on, you MUST deal with your friends and family. If your ex was popular and well liked by your friends and family, you are going to get very tired of all the questions. What happened, I am sorry to hear it, how is (your ex) doing and are you all right? The intense questions will go on and on.
Stand tall, be strong and explain that you are moving on and you are doing fine. Let them know the break up is over and you do not want to discuss it or the past relationship anymore. Sometimes, it is hard for the family to honor your request. They may play matchmaker and keep bringing it up hoping to get the two of you back together. Your family will come around, but it will take time.
As for the friends, this situation may be a little harder. It will be a little easier if the two of you did not have mutual friends. However, if you had the same friends you hung out with, then it will seem weird when you are alone with them. If your ex is still hanging out with the same friends, it will cause your friends to be in an unusual position trying to make sure not to make either of you mad or hurt. It may cause you to run into your ex when out with friends which can cause an awkward situation.
This does not mean that you must quit seeing or going out with your friends if you are moving on. It just means that you will have to be prepared for these situations and handle them with poise and like an adult. Do not put your friends in between you or make them feel belittled if they still like or go out with your ex. If you enjoy hanging out with your mutual friends, do it and do not stop your friendships.
When you tell your friends, "we broke up and I am moving on, end of discussion," be prepared to lose some of your friends. Some will be more loyal to your ex, so expect it. You may have to interact with your ex if you are to keep some of your friends and hang out with them. Try to keep in contact with your closest friends and allow them to keep in contact with your ex, without making them feel guilty. This will be hard but will not pressure your friends to make a choice between you or your ex.
It may be too painful soon after the break up seeing your mutual friends and going places with them that reminds you of your ex. If so take a time out, go on vacation. Go somewhere you have not been before or somewhere you enjoy that does not remind you of your ex. Try going somewhere with a friend that was not involved with your ex. This can give you a new outlook on life and the situation.
Once you have decided "the break up is over and you are moving on," make a plan to get past the relationship. Follow your plan and stay strong. These are just a few steps to take to formulate your plan. There are more steps to take to make a plan that is guaranteed not to fail.
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