What's the worst thing that could happen to break-ups? A bad break-up.
It's a nightmare, really, when you're faced with a vindictive Ex, or even someone who can't get over you, no matter how far away you move from her. But what does one do when the relationship has lost its charm and you want to call it quits? Of course you break up, but you break up the right way.
First things first, if you want to break up, make sure that you REALLY want to break-up. If you're still on the fence about calling it quits, make sure that you sort out those feelings first. Spare yourselves the trouble of being in limbo and thinking if you're still a couple or not. If it's a break-up, it should be a break-up and nothing else.
Once you've decided to break it off, have a discussion about it. Above all things, do not be cruel to the other person. Be direct, but kind. You don't have to sugarcoat things, just be honest.
Make sure that when you break-up, you do it face-to-face. Never break up over the internet, over a text message or even over the phone. At least give her the benefit of a decent discussion. Do not, under any circumstances, vanish into thin air. It's a mortal sin to just suddenly drift off. If you want to end it, have the guts to end it well. Otherwise, your cowardice will just come 'round and bite you in the butt, through bitter tirades and that cold dish called revenge.
If, after you've broken up, you still want to check up on your ex and see if she's okay, give it time first. Right now, the last person she needs to communicate with is you. She's still getting over you, therefore, try not to be too conspicuous around her. Let her stew, let her be sad, let her go out and enjoy the single life with friends.
If you're unsure whether she has gotten over you already or not, try to be subtle about checking up on her. Maybe you can ask her friends, or her family. The less contact you have with her, the more helpful you can be.
If you have decided to move on, there's no rule against that. Just don't be too blatant and quick about it. Going out on dates is fine, but going steady a mere weeks after the break-up could be unfair for you, your ex and your new partner. Just take it slow and try to re-assess yourself.
After all, a break-up is not just caused by a single person in the relationship. Most probably, you also had something to do with it. Assess your weaknesses, and figure out how to improve them. Knowing what you did wrong in the previous relationship could do wonders in making the next one much better and harmonious.
When it comes to breaking up, nothing is ever easy. But you can make the healing process easier if you do it the right way, with enough sensitivity and kindness. You may have broken up, but at least your happy memories together won't be tainted with the bitter taste of a break-up gone bad.
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