Has there been a breakup in your world? That happens more frequently than you think. You want to have that relationship that you once had back together again. Definitely these are trying times and every time it happens it doesn't get any easier.
Definitely there are some strong emotions that come out of this relationship for you. Let's see if I can spot some of them. Do you feel at odds with yourself without him? That is a normal feeling response to have. Is your life lonlier without him? Are you trying to mastermind a strategy to get him back at any cost?
To regain your relationship you don't have to be a master strategist. You just have to change the way you approach the situation. Before the relationship turned south was it going too fast? Were you giving hints of a strong relationship as in marriage even though you were still dating? If he wasn't ready for that type of talk then you may have gotten him scared off.
People act that way.That type of talk has to be handled very gingerly when it comes to a lifelong commitment.
It could have been that he felt emotionally obligated before himself making a decision that he wanted a marriage relationship. Each person in the relationship really has to make that decision on their own and not be compelled to make it for them.
Maybe he felt too much force to comply while you were together with your needs. Not wishes but demands. Now understanding this view of human psychology you may need to take heed of yourself and your own personality.
Are you dominating? Do you make statement ultimatums? You don't have to answer to me but to yourself about this and be honest about it.
Men need to feel independent and need to feel that they are in charge of circumstances. They definitely need to have their distance from time to time. Once a person feels trapped into a relationship without fully understanding it they may jolt out of the gate. In this case it may have happened that your boyfriend just needs time and space to figure out what they really want in life.
Relationships are like the game of chess. There are no quick moves in chess. You have to think 2 or 3 moves ahead of the current move. When you are dating the topic of marriage and long term commitment has to come naturally and on equal grounds.
Once things start getting too fast and assumptions are made that the male doesn't agree too then you start having problems. If they feel they aren't ready then they're not. If they feel pushed into a certain direction they certainly won't feel comfortable.
To make sure that he wants a long term relationship you have to let him want it as much as you do. If he has gone out of your life temporarily you have to let it go for now. If he has gone into his own space and you really want to get back together again you will have to be very smart and selective on what you say from this point on.
Do not force the issue and you'll have to start all over again re establishing the relationship that you once had. In fact just let him know that you aren't pushing any type of agenda and let him know that you are available for him to talk anytime.
You need to let him feel like he's calling the shots and that it's on his direction for the relationship to get back on track.
Since there is no direction right now and you've let him know you're still interested you need to make him feel like he's chasing you. Once you do get back in a dialogue let him know of how important relationships are to you.
Let him know that you are looking for a long term commitment and that the dating game is past you and then leave the conversation at that.
In order to get what you want out life you have to dramatize it a bit.
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